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A dating expert explains what you should talk about on a first date

'You want to get to emotion as quickly as possible. Stop asking 'What?' questions and start asking 'Why?' questions,' Matthew Hussey told Business Insider UK.

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Business Insider UK spoke toMatthew Hussey, dating expert at howtogettheguy.com and howtogettheguy.com/blog and author of New York Times bestseller "Get the Guy," about what to talk about on a first date for it to turn out a success.

Here's a transcript of the video:

Firstly, talk about what you love and get them talking about what they love.

Too often a first date goes down this very logical route. "Where are you from? How many brothers and sisters do you have? How old are you?" All of these details that don't actually create attraction.

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Logic doesn't create attraction, emotion does.

What we want to do on a first date is get to emotion as quickly as possible.

One easy way to do that is to stop asking "What?" questions and start asking "Why?" questions.

When somebody tells you what job they have, the quickest thing you can do is say: "Why do you love your job? Why do you hate your job?"

If somebody tells you the movie that they like the best, ask them: "Why do you love that movie? Why is that movie so special to you?"

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"Why" will tell you much more about somebody than "What."

If you want to get connected to somebody on a date quicker than anybody else is, get to the"Why" question.

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