Pulse Blogger A victim of tribalism reaches out - "...all because I am an Ewe"

What she writes about is a practical demonstration of how we have allowed tribalism to eat into our very existing social set up, such that regardless of how educated we are, our brains are burnt fried on issues of tribes.

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Following my essay on the need for us to stop politicians from pushing tribalism on us for their parochial interests, I received a message from a Facebook friend.

It is instrumental to mention that she and I had never messaged each other prior to her long message to me.

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What she writes about is a practical demonstration of how we have allowed tribalism to eat into our very existing social set up, such that regardless of how educated we are, our brains are burnt fried on issues of tribes.

Fact that it has always been there does not mean we should not try to end it. Fact that it has always been there does not mean we should encourage it. Fact that it has always been there does not mean we should allow politicians to insert a wedge into it and always hit on it because of the votes they want to get from it.

 

Here goes. I'm unable to mention her name but I assure you she exists:

"Hmmmm...I like this your piece on tribalism I wish I could share on my wall but you know what, I cant because they might think I did it because of them. I have been a victim of this eehhh.....

I dated a man for five years...five good years. His sister had been my friend for well over 12 years. I had been known to their family for that number of years, lived with them and eating from same bowl and the there was never a moment of complaint.

Now they realised my relationship with this guy gets serious and they all of a sudden realise I am an Ewe and disrespectful. We thought we could pull through. We did introductions with my family, finished marriage counselling, fixed dates for the 'knocking' and traditional marriage but their Mom said NEVER.

I thought it was just their Mum but apparently all of them including my best friend for the past 12 years kicked against it principally because I am an Ewe. Guess what, I was 6 weeks pregnant and the dude said it was over because his family said no and he couldn't do anything about it....all because I am an EWE! Guess what, I had my daughter and they wouldn't have me give her an Ewe name....chai the tribal battles we fight in our lives only God knows!

HMMMMM!

I type with tears. I know what these unnecessary tribal sentiments can do. We should not allow it in any way at all Kwame....I hope this post of yours speaks to many....until you have been through it you think it's not real....hey!! Its not easy my bruv....let me leave it here wai."

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