Yasmin Eleby on Saturday January 3 was reported to have married herself after realizing she’s still without a man at age 40.
A lot of people who heard the story criticized her whiles others also mocked her for what they consider crazy and desperate action for marriage but the Houston woman has replied her critics and says she does not regret her actions.
Discussing with The Root her reasons for doing that she said “I thought having a wedding ceremony would be a unique way to celebrate my 40 birhtday with my family and my friends”.
Talking about her family and friend’s reaction to her action Yasmin said, “Some of them didn’t believe me. They thought I was joking, but once I explained to them what it would be about, they were supportive”.
Here are excerpts from the interview:
Root: When the invites for the ceremony went out to guests, what was their response?
Yasmin Eleby: Not very many people knew it was a wedding. It was kind of a surprise. The invitations just said come celebrate my birthday in a unique way. I invited two of my exes. They were both happy for me. They were excited about it once they got there and realize what was happening.
The Root: A lot of people have assumed that marrying yourself was an act of desperation. What exactly was the ceremony about for you?
Yasmin Eleby: The ceremony is not about me being bitter for not having a man. It wasn’t like, “OK, I’m upset that I’m 40 and don’t have a man.” I wanted to show myself my self-love, my self-worth and my self-respect. It was always about me loving me. When God sends me my husband, he will come, but until then, I’m OK with it just being with me.
The Root: What vows did you take during the ceremony?
Yasmin Eleby: The first one was about forgiving myself. We’ve all made mistakes. I had to realize that if I ask for forgiveness, then it’s done. I don’t have to keep dwelling on the past. I can let it go. My second vow was to honor myself as a beautiful, fabulous being, conscious of making decisions for myself and to honor my self-worth. The third vow was love. I made a promise to love myself and to know that the more love I have for myself, the more love I have to share with others.
Speaking on the reactions of the public she said, “It has been blown way out of proportion. From the few comments that I’ve read, they’re trying to paint me as crazy or bitter about not having a husband, and that is so not the case. I’m not bitter, I‘m not crazy. I’m just a fun-loving unique individual, and I just wanted to do something special and different”.