Most self-improvement is contemplating and planning deciding on a plan to get yourself from where you are to where you want to be.
Plan meals together
Preparing a meal at home is one of the simple joys of a relationship. Take cooking food to the next level by sharing the work as a couple. Planning your meals can help elevate the quality of your life.
Deciding at the start of the week what you'll be eating for the next few nights makes shopping and meal-planning a breeze. After that, divide the work one of you can do the shopping while the other handles the cooking.
Go ahead and make plans
Planning is at the basis of all self-improvement. Most self-improvement is contemplating and planning deciding on a plan to get yourself from where you are to where you want to be. Mastering the skill of planning and making it a part of your life is key to improving yourself.
Snap out of the out of the passive state to the reactive one, and make decisions about your future and how to get yourself there. So, start planning. Plan your weekend, plan the next year, plan where you'll holiday next summer.
And bring your partner in at every step you can. The more you work out ideas for what's next for the both of you, the better you spend your time well together.
Reveal, but gradually
Never sharing is a flaw that some men are prone to and it can mar the potential intimacy of a serious relationship. The strong, silent type is good as far as it goes, but it's likely to kill the attraction if you are a closed cupboard. But taking it to the other extreme and over-sharing is as bad.
These are the guys who are desperate for somebody, anybody to take an interest in them or their past. You've been on the receiving end of this, so you know it can get awkward in a hurry.
Aim for the middle ground, guys. Work on doling out personal information at a steady pace. This builds intimacy without chasing the other person away or making them uncomfortable.
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Simply ask for it
If you find yourself frustrated by the lack of something in the relationship, take some time out to think if you've ever told your partner why it's important. If not, do it now. A little assertiveness is never a bad thing, and a good partner is going to want to meet your needs in a way that works for everyone.
If you've ever wished your significant other came with an instruction manual, it's likely that she feels the same way. So go ahead, just ask for what you need. But at the same time don't be overbearing.
List mutual goals
The highly-successful people will tell you there's something special about writing your goals down on paper. Having a list somewhere of what you're striving for is a powerful reminder as you go about your day.
That energy can make a big difference in what you accomplish, and your partner will see the difference in you. Just think about it:
Would you want to be with somebody who lacks direction or drive, or do you want a partner who's trying to improve themselves and their life situations?
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Clear the mess
Clutter breeds stress and generates negative energy, both of which are extremely unhealthy for nurturing a relationship. If you've never noticed the relationship between organisation in your physical environment and organisation in your mental state, you'll be amazed at how closely the two are related.
No matter how busy you are, take 15 minutes to clean up a cluttered room. That small an action will pay noticeable improvements in your mental outlook.
If you're a bit sloppy, cleaning up after yourself is a good habit to get into. And you can improve your relationship by picking up after your partner many people clean up after themselves but leave others' clutter alone.
Contribute and help your partner out, and notice the different energy you both feel in a tidy home. A clean home is a happy home.
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This good-old advice still holds true. There are plenty of times that we are so committed to showing others how right we are that we hurt their feelings in the process.
Even if you always win disagreements with your better half, you've usually still lost. As tempting as it can be to try to prove our point and how strongly we feel about it, a lot of the time it's better to just let things pass. In a relationship, it is more important to be kind than right.