Hand holding is one of the first shows of affection, and one of the first to be discarded when a relationship gets a little stale.
It's difficult to keep a marriage going over the course of a long term. But a lack of lust is something you can overcome and even create. Keeping your marriage hot increases your chances of keeping your relationship committed.
Dating is what brought you to marriage, and so dating in marriage is important to keep the love alive and the commitment strong." Here's how to do just that.
1. Whisk your spouse out of the bedroom
Getting it on doesn't mean you're getting it good. Sex has a habit of getting stale when you do it in the same place every time. So keep sex and your relationship fresh by breaking out of the bedroom.
Booking hotel room for a lunch break date or even a weekend getaway shakes up your romance in a very good way, who adds that with each passing hour away from home you'll feel a revived interest in adventure and one another. Something as simple as a new hotel room or a new city will give you both the opportunity to look at each other with new eyes.
2. Get your spouse a gift just because it's Thursday
When you were first dating, it was likely nothing to drop your significant other a love note or at least a love text. But as time went on, the habit of surprising one another may have faded away.
It's time, to work surprises back into your schedule. Sending love notes, flowers and gifts shows your partner that you appreciate him or her and it's not just rote. It also shakes him out of any rut your partner has been in, and he or she will feel appreciated and he likes and will want to make sure you do too."
3. Make a date for a date
It seems backwards to plan for romance, because making and keeping a date night when you're married and busy may feel like a chore, which isn't how dating should feel.
But wine in hand and excellent food in fork, you'll relax into the date and feel like marriage is good because you can do this. It's easy get booked up with other obligations and lose that connection to your spouse, so it's essential to connect over the course of a long term marriage.
Regular date nights will make you feel like you've got a schedule commitment and a love commitment that makes the schedule important and possible."
4. Flirt often
It may seem like your flirting phase has come and gone, but you can still tease and tempt your spouse. Call your partner up during the day and talk sexy. Or compliment your partner by telling him or her how hot he or she is, what you like best about sex with him or her, and what you want to do with him or her later that evening.
Not only will this back-and-forth banter give your spouse a confidence boost, but when you let your partner know how much he or she turns you on, "you're recreating that dating feeling and stimulating your marriage.
5. Hold hands
Hand holding is one of the first shows of affection, and one of the first to be discarded when a relationship gets a little stale. Why? it's easier for many couples to be together without connecting by hand, or any other way.
And yet there's nothing as pure and simple to show you're connected to each other, yourself, and the world than holding hands and strolling in the park, through the city, or on the beach.
This will make you feel that rare combination of connected and unique because you're seeing the world through your own eyes, but that hand holding reminds you of what it was like to first connect in the most pure and simple and romantic way.