Why you should stay single past 30 years

Europa

July 4, 2016 5:51 PM

Women are reminded relentlessly not to “turn down all the proposals you get because you will be miserable if no one wants to marry you in the future.”

Single black woman

Most of us women are advised by family and friends – especially male friends – to be thankful for the proposals we get. They tell us that women really don’t have much of a choice when it comes to dating, that by age 30 we will start to ‘expire’ so if a man finds you attractive enough to ask you out you shouldn’t drag the issue.

Women are reminded relentlessly not to “turn down all the proposals you get because you will be miserable if no one wants to marry you in the future.”

These unsolicited advisors will even cite examples of female friends of theirs who ‘bounced and flexed’ every proposal they had, until they ended up miserable and lonely, at the advanced age of 30 (gosh, as if age 30 is the same as 200 years).

Here’s news for the ladies, I’m pretty sure some of us already know this, but you have every right to say no to all the 100 proposals you get from men if you think they aren’t the kind of person you would want to end up with.

Yes, the societal threat of loneliness and a miserable single life can be intimidating, but that’s not reason enough to say yes to just anyone. Bask in your singleness; there is no expiry date to finding love and building the right relationship. Before you rush to say yes to a proposal just because you are 30 years or above, know this:

Lone ranger is better than Miserable Missus- Being alone isn’t the only highroad to misery. Wrong relationships can drive you nuts and cause every single hair on your head to fall out. If you smell such relationships from a distance, by all means be at ease to say no to that proposal. Your happiness is much more supreme, much more sacred, than any one’s idea of a fulfilled life.

The 20 men bar- If any of us women decided to say yes to all the proposals we get, even after age 30, we’ll probably have an average number of 20 boyfriends per year. Come to think of it, we could try that just for the fun of it, I’m sure our concerned friends and parents will be happy that we actually listened to their advice.

The ability to choose is a mark of maturity- at every point in life, people must make a choice based upon the options presented them. They weigh the options, and select the best possible one. That’s wisdom; choices should not be based merely on ‘I’ll be alone if I don’t settle down’. Fear is never a good enough reason to make a life-time commitment.

Errr..even married women get hit on-The claim that a time will come when men will no longer be attracted to you is the oldest lie in the book. 50 year old women still get hit on. If you think the relationship is wrong for you, bounce the proposal, and bounce it hard.

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