Keep in mind that your mother may have gotten the short end of the stick and never been given the opportunity to be the primary decision-maker when planning a wedding.
Even mothers and daughters, who are the best of friends under normal circumstances may have trouble working together to plan a wedding. It's an emotionally charged experience.
Your mother has been imagining the excitement of your big day since you were an infant but when the big day finally approaches, you might disagree ideas.
Whatever the difference, you will probably get most of what you wanted in the end, but you have to watch your temper along the way.
It can be hard to keep yourself from saying bad things when you're frustrated or upset, but some things can't be taken back once they're said. Try to avoid the following three phrases specifically they're guaranteed to get you in more trouble:
1. "This is my wedding, you had yours."
Your mother is well aware it's your wedding. You have to keep in mind that when your mom got married, she probably did not get to plan it herself. She likely didn't have a whole lot of say because traditionally, parents planned their daughters' weddings. She was the guest of honor, not the hostess. Times have changed and brides do make 99 percent of their own decisions, now. Keep in mind that your mother may have gotten the short end of the stick and never been given the opportunity to be the primary decision-maker when planning a wedding.
2. "Fine. I'll pay for it myself then!"
Wow, that's a stupid thing to say in the heat of the moment if your parents were willing to share wedding costs. Sometimes, it takes some compromise to choose something that both you and your mom can live with, but it's worth the effort. Don't cut off your nose to spite your face by disrespecting her generosity.
3. "If you don't like it, you don't have to come."
Now that's just mean. Your mother wants to be there and wouldn't consider missing your wedding, even if you choose a wedding gown she hates. When you say something so dismissive, your mother hears you saying that you don't care if she's at your wedding. And you don't mean that.
Source: Sandy Malone