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'My girlfriend makes more money than me—Here's what it's like'

We asked seven dudes to share how they really feel about earning less.

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And, in some cases, the families were actually more likely to stay together if the mom made more moo-lah.

Who runs the world? That's right.

And while bringing home a big, fat paycheck is the bomb.com, making more money than your S.O. challenges (outdated) societal norms. And that can make some dudes feel kind of awkward. Though, that's not always the case.

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To get a feel of what guys really think about their partners raking in more money than them, we asked some of them who've been there and done that to open up.

Here's their take.

“My wife makes a lot more than me, and I’m okay with it. We’re both attorneys and she practices in a field that is a lot more lucrative. But she doesn’t hold it over my head or use it as a way to emasculate me. So it’s really a non-issue for us. I still make enough to support myself, so it’s not like I’m leeching off of her.” —Chris D.

“I won’t lie, there are times that it bothers me that my fianceé makes more than me. I know I shouldn’t feel that way, but I can’t help it. I guess I just always had this perception that I’d be the main breadwinner because that’s the kind of family I come from. I know it’s old-fashioned, but still, to be the one making less is something I do think about. I want to be clear, though. I don’t resent her. She’s great at what she does and deserves to make more than she does. I also know that there are men who work with her in the same positions and make more. That’s f—ked up.” —Darren W.

“My girlfriend makes a lot more than me. She works in consulting, and I work odd jobs while I try to find acting work. I didn’t think too much about the difference in our income until now. I don’t think it’s much of an issue, because I would be doing what I’m doing and she’d be doing what she’s doing whether we were together or not. I can see it becoming something that we have to talk about if we get to the point where we want to move in together. She’s used to having a much nicer apartment than I am, and I couldn’t afford to split a nice one with her.” —Johan P.

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“This is actually something my wife and I joke about a lot. It’s a serious topic, the wage gap, but we like to have fun with the fact that she makes exponentially more than me and I have no desire to change that. She’s very driven in her career, and I basically just work because I have to. When we start a family, we’ve discussed me being a stay-at-home dad.” —Matt M.

“Not only does my wife make more than me, she’s in a higher position at the same company we work for. Honestly, the only time it really bothers me is when coworkers give me shit about it. It’s good-natured, I think. I have less of a problem with making less money than [her] than I do with other people knowing about it. To me, that stuff has always been private. But when you work at the same place and she’s higher up than you, people are going to know she makes more.” —Stefan J.

“Look: I am my wife’s biggest fan. I think it’s amazing that she makes more than me, and I know that she deserves to. We have different professions, and hers comes with a lot more stress than mine. I don’t care about gender. If you work hard and you’re good at your job, you deserve to be compensated fairly. I get much more angry about the thought that guys she works with make more money than she does for doing the same thing.” —Matt G.

“My wife is a doctor and makes a lot more money than I do. For the most part it’s a non-issue. Though I don’t have as much of a say as she does when it’s time to make a big financial decision. She would say that we’re equal, so I’m not putting this on her. It’s just I tend to go with what she wants to do since she’s the one contributing the majority of the money to it. It can be a little bit of a bummer sometimes. But, hey, I didn’t go to med school.” —Tino K.

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