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Mothers' Day 7 tips on raising successful kids

While there's no set of rules for raising success children, psychology research has pointed to a handful of factors that predict success, and much of it comes down to the parents.

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play With today being Mothers' Day, it's a day to celebrate mothers through the globe, and thank them for all they have done to bring up their offspring in the world. (Wikipedia )

With today being Mothers' Day, it's a day to celebrate mothers through the globe, and thank them for all they have done to bring up their offspring in the world.

While there's no set of rules for raising success children, psychology research has pointed to a handful of factors that predict success, and much of it comes down to the parents.

The list, published in Business Insider shows points that parents of successful children have in common in the raising of their kids, from making the children do chores to prioritizing personal education.

Here's some points from the Business Insider list which may help mothers and fathers raise success children.

Make your kids do chores

If they aren't cleaning up after themselves, it means someone else is doing that for them, Julie Lythcott-Haims, former dean of freshmen at Stanford University and author of "How to Raise an Adult" said during a TED Talks Live event.

"And so they're absolved of not only the work, but of learning that work has to be done and that each one of us must contribute for the betterment of the whole," she said.

She says kids raised doing chores go on to become employees who collaborate well with their coworkers, are more empathetic because they know firsthand what struggling looks like, and are able to take on tasks independently.

Teach your kids social skills

Over 20 years, researchers from Pennsylvania State University and Duke University tracked more than 700 children from across the US between kindergarten and age 25 and found a significant correlation between their social skills as kindergartners and their success as adults two decades later.

They found socially competent children who could cooperate with their peers without prompting, be helpful to others, understand their feelings, and resolve problems on their own, were far more likely to earn a college degree and have a full-time job by age 25 than those with limited social skills.

Have high expectations of your children

Data from a national survey of 6,600 children born in 2001, University of California at Los Angeles professor Neal Halfon and his colleagues discovered that the expectations parents hold for their kids have a huge effect on attainment.

Parents who wanted their children to go to university seemed to manage their child toward that goal irrespective of their income and other assets, Halfon said.

The finding came out in standardized tests: 57% of the kids who did the worst were expected to attend university by their parents, while 96% of the kids who did the best were expected to go to university.

Have a healthy relationship with your co-parent

Another American study found children in high-conflict families, whether intact or divorced, tend to fare worse than children of parents that get along, and some studies have found children in nonconflictual single-parent families fare better than children in conflictual two-parent families.

The conflict between parents prior to divorce also affects children negatively, while post-divorce conflict has a strong influence on children's adjustment, researchers find.

And 20-somethings who experienced divorce of their parents as children still report pain and distress over their parent's divorce 10 years later. Young people who reported high conflict between their parents were far more likely to have feelings of loss and regret, the Business Insider reported.

Attain higher educational levels

A 2014 study lead by a University of Michigan psychologist found mothers who finished high school or college were more likely to raise kids that did the same.

She looked at a group of over 14,000 children who entered kindergarten in 1998 to 2007, and study found that children born to teen moms (18 years old or younger) were less likely to finish high school or go to college than their counterparts.

Develop a relationship with your kids

A 2014 study of 243 people born into poverty found that children who received "sensitive caregiving" in their first three years not only did better in academic tests in childhood, but had healthier relationships and greater academic attainment in their 30s.

Investments in early parent-child relationships may result in long-term returns that accumulate across individuals' lives, a coauthor said.

Mums, get a job.

According to research out of Harvard Business School, there are significant benefits for children growing up with mothers who work outside the home, - daughters of working mothers went to school longer, were more likely to have a job in a supervisory role, and earned more money — 23% more compared to their peers who were raised by stay-at-home mothers.

The sons of working mothers also tended to help out more in household chores and childcare, they spent seven-and-a-half more hours a week on childcare and 25 more minutes on housework.

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