5 awkward things that happen when you keep seeing an ex everywhere

For many, the preferred thing is to ‘hibernate’ after a breakup. They try to avoid an ex as much as they can. For such people,

For some other people, however, the very nature of their relationship makes this extremely difficult, if not impossible. This is usually the case with people whose partners belonged in the same social circle, organization or community with them.

If your ex works in the same place as you, if he or she is a close family friend, belongs to the same book club, if they’re in your class in school, church choir, if they live on your street, have a subscription at the same gymnasium as you, etc, just imagine all the awkwardness that you have to endure and literally walk yourself through every time you run into them. This will, quite frankly, be pretty often if we’re being sincere.

Below are five awkward situations you experience in situations like this:

1. The rudeness

This is the most obvious, most common. Having an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend partner close proximity after a breakup means you may be forced to speak with them either as an obligation or just to be civil. If, for example, he or she is a colleague, there is every tendency that they will be rude and may frustrate every attempt at being civil.

The obvious solution will be to not speak to them at all, of course, but how much option do you have exactly when you have to work on the same project and deliver results to a boss who is breathing down your neck?

2. Seeing them at functions

If your ex and you belong to the same circle of friends, you’ll almost always find them at the same parties, same places you go, and they’ll seemingly be in your face from your waking hours till you go to bed. It’s as exhausting as it is awkward, having to sit there all night and pretend like he or she is just another stranger, and not someone you were recently dreaming up a future with.

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3. Having to see them with a new partner

This is just the utmost worst particularly if you still nurse feelings for them and secretly hope they would return to you sometime down the line. The awkwardness of having them not just hanging around, but coming with someone else to those gatherings with another man or woman.

It’s especially worse if you are still single and your partner savagely [or childishly] always chooses to become a PDA champion just to annoy you. Of course, you can storm out in obvious annoyance and have to explain to your friends for the umpteenth time that leaving angrily does not mean you still have feelings for him or her.

But of course, they'll choose to believe that your anger is a manifestation that you still care, even though you really don't GAF anymore.

Or do you?

4. Good deeds may be misunderstood

One other level of awkwardness you’ll need to scale is the one where you both are mature enough to be civil towards to each other, causing one person to confuse the civility and politeness as an intention of getting back with the other. Just imagine the conversation where you have to explain to such person that you are just being decent person and that there’s no comeback anywhere in the horizon… or ever.

Just imagine the giant awkwardness of that conversation…

5. In touch with your family members

Having your ex invited over for your family events and gatherings does not create awkwardness but also elicits in you a feeling of betrayal. But hey, this is what you likely get for dating someone who was always a close friend of your family, or one whom your parents and siblings fell deeply in love with after being introduced to them by you.