1 Be defenceless instead of fighting with your partner. Find something to agree on with your partner.

2. Show that you are listening when your partner is upset. This will help you understand what they are saying and calms them down simultaneously.

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3. Take responsibility for the offence and apologise.

4. Stand together and attack the misunderstanding. Most couples attack each other instead of the problem. Standing together makes you understand the point where things went wrong.

Watch relationship coach Bruce Muzik give tips on how to resolve relationship issues without fighting: