My name is Obenewaa, I am a relationship addict

Portia Arthur

April 15, 2016 9:40 AM

"Attempt to “fix” others. Relationship addicts try repeatedly to “fix” others, usually persons who do not want to be fixed. But the drive to save someone causes the addict to hang onto a relationship long after others would have left".

Couple out on date

Since I started dating at age 19, I have never been single for even a week and I have had over a dozen relationships. I am realizing my addiction now at the age of 36.

I was reading a piece online and I saw myself in many of the characteristics found in people who suffer from this addiction. Although not all my past partners have been relationship addicts as well, I realize now that I have also dated a good amount of relationship addicts too, these relationship were the most dramatic and the most hurtful, yet at that time, they seemed like the most loving as well.

Research shows that children who are often rejected or abandoned and may well have been victims of physical or psychological abuse are more likely to turn out ad relationship addicts. The early deprivation, feeling unloved or rejected by the world forces them to view life as a painful experience. Addicts assume that the world is just one big dysfunctional family. If you recognize yourself in some of the following characteristics, you are probably an addict.

The first 19 characteristics is what I see in myself and what I am trying to work on now so I don’t have to live the rest of my life with this need to be in a relationship at all times:

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The remaining fourteen characteristics is often what I see in the people I date:

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Portia Arthur