Virginity has become a yardstick for determining one’s morals; how chaste or not you are goes a long way in shaping people’s general opinion of you.
It has become a yardstick for determining one’s morals; how chaste or not you are goes a long way in shaping people’s general opinion of you.
People decide to keep their virginity for countless reasons.
But, with the prevalence of sexually enticing phenomena all around us in this 21st century, made possible by technology, people are increasingly finding it hard to stay motivated in their vows to lead chaste lives.
How can someone remain a virgin when there are numerous x-rated material circulating on social media? Are they constantly put on the brink of giving in?
Some male virgins shared how it feels to be a virgin in their early twenties with Pulse.com.gh.
(Note: names have been changed to protect the identities of our respondents, upon their request)
As a human, of course I feel tempted all the time, especially in our contemporary world filled with seductive material all round. But my faith, oh my sacred faith, is steadfast: Look, once the almighty God said we shouldn't have premarital sex, who am I, common human, to do otherwise?
(Laughs) Ok, I’m kidding. Let me be honest. Of course as a young adult male with feelings, I would want to have sex at some point. But my girlfriend values her virginity, for religious reasons. And I respect her decision. Above all, I also love her enough to wait.
In this modern day it is really difficult me. As a human being with needs I get tempted to try it out. However, my faith is what keeps me going. And lately, you find materials with sexual contents all over the place. music, movies, magazines, and even tv adverts. At times you even get ridiculed by friends when they find out that I am a virgin but I am keeping it for the sake of my faith and for my special future wife.
I am keeping my virginity for my future wife and I understand that the first time and so I am afraid. Nowadays everyone is talking about sex and it's everywhere but I am not moved because I really want do not want to lose my virginity before i get married as a Christian.
It’s very difficult to remain a virgin. In fact, I have had a lot of temptations in the past, and sometimes you feel like you have been left behind. Especially when you sit in the midst of friends and you hear them speak about all those sex stuffs.
In that moment, you begin to feel the urge to also try it. But my resolve to remain a virgin stems from the fact that I see no reason why I should do it now, when I have kept my virginity all his while. I feel I will be betraying my fate if I should engage in any sexual activity before marriage.
Oh I think it's quite normal for people who are celibate to feel a sense of you missing out of something. Especially because sex and sexual connotations to things are all around us from social media to conversations with friends. But personally, I know the time and appropriate person will come so I am not really bothered about it.
Are you a virgin, share with us why are still a virgin and when is the appropriate time to have sex.