Anne Roderique-Jones

These werent failures-they were experiences. Traveling with a partner can lead to some great memories, many with an R rating-or at least a rom-com glow. This isnt misty-eyed conjecture. A U.S. Travel Association survey con-firms that vacations can strengthen relationships, help couples communicate, and reduce the odds of divorce. Escaping from work, laundry, and kids is liberating. Add in mountain views ors alt air, and new sensations help bring you into your body, says relationship coach Celeste Hirschman. It all aids sexual arousal.

Your brain loves to travel. Variety, surprise, and adventure open up the dopamine response in the brain, says sex coach PattiBritton. That flow of feel-good hormones brings a sense of excitement. Most couples lose that over time, she says.

These trips stand out for me and Nate. No need to copy them exactly; use them as inspiration. With a little planning and imagination, you wont need a lot of money-or, in some cases, clothes.

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I know, I know: cliche alert! But the connection between beaches, sex, and romance should come as no surprise. For one thing, ocean environments make us feel good. Research from 2017 suggests that exposure to such blue spacesmay have mental and physical benefits. And then theres all that skin. Thats probably why Hawaii is such a popular honeymoon destination-its straight-up paradise. On a recent trip to Kauai, Nate surprised me by renting a convertible, something I never imagined us driving in our real life. Our top-down exploration included roadside coconuts, poke picnics, shave ice, and cool-ing swims. We even took a surfing lesson. By evening, we drank wine on the lanai and googled real-estate we couldnt afford.

Sensory overload. As beautiful as Hawaii looks, it smells and sounds are equally astounding. Changing your sensory input can be quite stimulating, Britton says, especially if your home base is a city like, say, Chicago. Flowers, salty ocean air, and crashing surf combine to create pure bliss. As for visual stimuli, watching water droplets tracing her curves on the beach can make your mind wander to the fun times you will have back at the hotel room, says psychologist Benna Strober, Psy.D.

Visit Bermuda for its fine beaches and easy access from the East Coast. Theres also Florida, Cabo San Lucas, and Big Sur. To travel in style, splurge at the car rental agency or use a longer-term service such as Swapalease, which lets you lease a fancy car (BMW, Maserati, Ferrari, Porsche) for as little as four months at rates as low as $450 a month. Or get two other couples to split the cost of a small private jet from PrivateJet Services (starting at $5,000 or so per hour of air time).

Nate and I spent our honeymoon at a Mexican resort, swilling Tecate and applying moisturizer to each others sun-seared skin. When we returned years later, not much had changed-but we had. I brought the same bikini (still fit!) and Nate packed his beloved Royals visor so we could redo some photographs. But we realized that time had made us more in tune with each other. We took naps, read books, swam in our private pool, and spent hours reminiscing at dinner. It was more romantic than our honeymoon. And no sunburn.

New appreciation. Visiting a faraway place, especially on a honeymoon, can be stressful. When you go back, many of the stresses are gone. You know your way around, says Art Markman, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. Plus, you get to share the joy of thinking about how young and clueless you were the first time.

Cant swing a return trip? Try a low-cost alternative, like the hotel you stayed in on your wedding night. If you went toMexico, try a Mexican restaurant. France? Watch a French movie with a nice Bordeaux and good cheese. Its about memories, men.

Most weekdays Nate and I are in bed by 10 p.m.-after Jeopardy! and Family Feud. Hot, right? The rules changed when we lost our Vegas virginity. Research shows that couples who share novel and arousing activities-as opposed to mundane pursuits like watching game shows-see a boost in relationship quality. We stayed at the Cosmopolitan of Las Vegas, in a room overlooking the fountains and the Strip. Our suite had a velvet sofa and a Japanese soaking tub for two. Tempting. But Vegas has a way of pulling you out of your comfort zone and your fancy hotel. We drank cocktails at breakfast and umbrella drinks in a cabana by the pool. I wore short dresses and a skimpy bikini and we danced until dawn. The next day, we slept past Wheel of Fortune.

A new you. One cure for monotony: Give yourself permission to let loose and fantasize about being someone else, says Strober. Role-playing shows that you trust your partner with your deepest fantasies, she says. That vulnerability can boost your relationship-and sex life.

Slip on a sport coat and play James Bond in San Juan, Puerto Rico, home to a sophisticated cocktail scene, nightlife, and gambling-no pass-port required. Affordable alternatives? Reno and Atlantic City. Or role-play locally: Talk about your turn-ons and settle on a scenario. (Into taboos? Pretend youre cheating lovers.) Agree on a signal to alert each other if one of you needs a break, says Hirschman.

The average iPhone user unlocks the device 80 times a day. In 2016, according to one report, Android users clicked, swiped, or tapped a screen 2,600-plus times a day. (Touch your partner that often?) In Cuba, Internet access is scarce.But trust me: In Havana you dont need Instagram. With the music, the cocktails, and the steamy heat, this city radiates sexiness. Nate and I spent our mornings in bed, our afternoons sipping mojitos in leafy courtyards, and our evenings dancing until we were soaked in sweat. My lingering mental gif: zipping around in the backseat of a classic car, my hair blowing in the warm wind, and my husband looking at me with a big smile. Didn't need a photo.

Focused connection. Put down the phone to solidify your relationship:

Technoference is a term from a study that found that seven in 10people see phones as interrupting or getting in the way of interactions with their mate (like texting while talking). When it happens often, relationship satisfaction drops. Without your phone, you relax into your partners company and reconnect, says therapist Rachel Sussman, L.C.S.W. Youll be reminded of the early days, when you two were young, carefree, and getting to know each other.

Go camping far from cellphone reach; seek out a digital detox program or a hotel like Rancho La Puerta in Baja, California, which doesnt allow cellphone use in public areas. Or, you know, leave your phones in your hotel safe.

I can attribute my happy marriage to a disastrous train ride in France. Or the time we sank our rental car in a muddy river in Costa Rica. Or that flight on a Mexican airline that went out of business while we were in the air, stranding us in Acapulco.

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6 Trips to Plan for the Best Vacation Sex of Your Life