YourTango host Melanie Gorman together with divorce coach Dr. Karen Finn, relationship trainer Julie Nise, matchmaker and dating coach Jasbina Ahluwalia and counselor and therapist Dr. Pat Love say that maybe the issue isn't the so-wrong guys that you keep finding. It's you! You have to change yourself in order to stop attracting the same man.
Here are some life-changing ways they say will help you avoid the endless cycle of Mr. Wrongs:
Ask For Feedback: Talk about it with your loved ones to help you reevaluate your past relationships. While you may think it panned out a certain way, they can help you see it in another light. Perhaps you thought a past relationship went very wrong because you believed your ex did something wrong, but your close friend says that it was really all you. You won't know for sure until you ask someone to reflect on your relationship with you. Then, you can figure out what to change for the future. Julie Nise expertly explains, "The thing about patterns is it's all about perspective. We all have our perspectives — what we think, what we believe, what we think we know, and they may or may not be accurate. So I think when it comes to changing patterns and not repeating the things we've done in the past, a really good point is you've got to get your feedback."