And if youre the reboundee, rather than the rebounder, you may be along for a confusing ride. Most people dont just announce that theyre using you to rebound. Hell, they might not even realize that theyre rebounding. So how do you know if youre in a rebound situation? We talked with and , a sexologist and relationship expert, to determine eight signs that your partner is rebounding with you.

If you read these signs and it sounds like your relationship, the most important thing you need to do is be very clear about what youre looking for from the relationship, and then ask what your partner is looking for. If you're happy having a casual fling, then by all means, a rebound can be a lot of fun, says . But if you're looking for a relationship, it's best for you to step away and let the person fully heal before starting something new with you.

Theyre keeping it casual.

Many rebound relationships start with the very intention of not being permanent, Allison says. If your partner is being aloof, non-committal, or has straight-out said that theyre not looking for anything serious, then its possible theyre coming off of a bad breakup and dont want to dive into a new romantic commitment until theyve had time to heal. If thats the case, its best to respect their boundaries-dont push a monogamous relationship if theyre telling you they dont want one.

Theyre clearly not over their last relationship.

Maybe your partner has claimed over and over again that they no longer have feelings for their ex, but youre just not buying it. If she tells you her previous relationship ended recently and says shes over it and acting super happy, but seems like shes covering hurt feelings, its possible youre her rebound, Allison says.

They talk about their ex all the time.

Sure, , and if your new bae has brunch with her (or his, or their) ex every Sunday, maybe its not so weird for her to talk about him. But if shes talking about him all the time, without the friendship to back it up, then theres a chance shes still hung up on old feelings, Marin says.

They deliberately avoid talking about their ex.

Then again, complete silence around the ex could also be a red flag. Its a sign if she avoids talking about her ex completely, and you sense she has a lingering resentment for him, Allison says. Most people arent super chatty about their exes with new partners, but theres a difference between not talking about an ex because they never come up and specifically avoiding any mention of an old fling. If you know she's had a recent break-up, and her ex is a non-topic, then that would be pretty good indicator that these are rebound-triggered issues, Allison says.

They wont open up.

New relationships are all about exploration-youre learning as much as you can about this person whos suddenly so important in your life. So, if your new partner is holding back, if they seem vulnerable and unsure, or you feel like theyre putting on a fake smile but not really letting you get to know them, then that could be a sign of rebound. Shes not giving you deep, sincere eye-contact and feels like shes not fully present, Allison says. She seems overly into you, spends a lot of time with you, but doesnt seem to be her authentic self or ever let you inside, or go deep with you.

Theyre using you for sex.

The relationship may just be for the convenience of having sex and distracting herself from her emotions, Allison says. If you feel no emotional connection when intimate with her, that could be a sign. Now, theres nothing wrong with casual sex, if you and your partner are both upfront about wanting a purely physical relationship. But if youre trying to make a relationship work and your partner is only in it for the sexual distraction, that could be a problem.

Theyre leaning in too hard, and too fast.

Youve been dating for six weeks, but it feels like its been a year. Maybe youve found that fairytale, love-at-first-sight kind of moment-or maybe youre in a rebound. People coming out of long-term relationships aren't in the habit of interacting casually, so they may treat you as a partner rather than someone they're getting to know, Marin says. Its possibly a bad sign if your new bae is treating you as if youve been in a relationship for a lot longer than you have.

Theyre giving you mixed signals.

Because someone in a rebound is simultaneously trying to distract themself from thinking about their ex and likely still hurting from their breakup, they can easily give off mixed signals, Marin says. One moment it may feel as if theyre falling for you and the next they may brush you off. If you cant get a sense of how your partner really feels, it may be time for a talk.