There are no definite rules on makes people have happy relationships, but there are tips that have worked for a lot of people.
Here are some:
1. You need to 'miss' each other once in a while:Â You need to understand space is not always bad. The more time you spend together, the higher the chances there might be friction. Space should serve
2. Compromising is not a sign of weakness:Â You have to meet halfway every now and then. Itâs not about what you always want to happen, or vice versa. You will get to learn how to understand and become more open to what each of you wants. Itâs what you two want, and how you two will work it out.
5. You can't fix people. You are in a relationship with them because you have accepted them for who they areâfor their dreams, their frustrations, and their annoying mannerisms. When you are in a relationship, you will learn that you can never fix them and that you have to let them be who they are. If you try so hard to mold them into the person you want to be, then maybe they shouldnât be the person youâre dating.
6. Being comfortable isnât scary. You will learn how to become more open with them because that is what relationships are all about. You are yourself when youâre with them, and they will not judge you for that. If you need to poop, go tell them. Being comfortable isnât scary, itâs assures them that you are committed to them.
7. Misunderstandings are inevitable. Thereâs no such thing as a perfect relationship. Itâs crap that people aim for perfection. You will argue no matter what. Itâs not healthy if you donât fight because arguments make you realize how much you want your relationship to work. You cannot always agree on everything. Thatâs bullshit. Fights will only be unhealthy if itâs already irrational and if it happens on a daily basis.
8. You should never expect. Itâs not always about you. You have to realize that disappointments are often caused by too much expectation. Being in a relationship will teach you how to become more realistic, understanding, and patient. Your relationship isnât a movie. Heâs not Patrick Dempsey or Josh Duhamel. And youâre not just a girl standing in front of a boy waiting for him to love you. Your relationship is real; there are no âcutsâ and âcreditsâ, you donât have âscriptsâ, and what you do doesnât last for two hoursâit lasts for how long you want it to.
9. You should stop being paranoid and trust them. Stop overthinking, heâs not hiding anything from you. You have to start believing in him because he also gets hurt whenever you think otherwise. Trust is the hardest thing to give, earn, and do whenever youâre in a relationship. But little by little you will get to learn how to give it. Trusting someone is equivalent to loving them.
10. You will learn how to show them how you feel. Itâs easy to promise and tell them that you will always be there for them. When youâre in a relationship, words will just be words. Itâs going to be how you show them and make them feel that they are loved. Itâs how you hug them tight after a long and tiring day at work, itâs the way you kiss them on the forehead when they feel worried, itâs the way you sincerely laugh at their silly old joke, itâs the way you rub their back when it aches so bad. Itâs the little things that count. Itâs not how elaborately you tell them how you will love them. Itâs how you show them; itâs how you make them feel.
11. And finally, itâs all about balance. It may be hard to do all of these and know the perfect amount love to give each other. Humans love things they cannot define. Itâs not like thereâs a formula for a perfect relationship, or certain ingredients on how you can make a relationship work. Itâs all about balance.