This is how to not apologise to your partner when you've wronged them

This is what an apology should not look like.

This is how to not apologise to your partner when you've wronged them [Credit - iStock]

Here are the wrong ways to apologize:

It doesn’t matter if this partner once did the same thing to you. When apologizing, no need to mention that. Offering a qualified apology washes away its quality. Just take responsibility and offer a remorseful one.


That you have been good for so long does not excuse you from apologizing and doing it right when you have messed up. No matter how good you have been to your partner, the possibility of making mistakes is still there, and your partner retains the right to be hurt, even if you stepped on their toes only once in a while.


An apology doesn’t mean anything if you say it with an attitude. People notice it if your words are “I’m sorry” but your tone is “screw you.” The words aren’t enough. Tone is everything.

Accept responsibility instead of blaming it on the shitty day you had at work – people have terrible days every time and never take it out on their partners. Don’t blame it on alcohol or mood or other things either.

Just take responsibility for your actions.


Don’t try to downplay what you did. All the talking in the world won’t minimize the pain you caused the other person. You can’t get someone to rationalize away their feelings. If you are apologising, don't do it with the intent of making your partner feel like they are overreacting. Their hurt feelings are valid and you should acknowledge that.

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