Having sex with the same person over and over again is a lot like playing the same song on repeat: You may love it at first, but with each time you do (or hear) it again, it gets a little less exciting.
Eventually, you'll want to play it less and less often.
But a stale sex life is, unfortunately, normal. It's not uncommon for married couples who have been together for several years to find that their sexual desire and passion seem to peter out from a strong fire to smoldering ashes.
- Give yourself some sexy reflection time
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Time to reflect on what turns you on. By blocking off just a few minutes a day to individually focus on positive thoughts and memories of your sex life, you are reinforcing erotic thinking and openness to later arousal.
It only takes about three to five minutes to help refocus your brain on those things that trigger excitement and pleasure.
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- Make a sexual wishlist
If you've got sexual fantasies, it's time to make a list. Share your lists with each other and gain a more intimate look at what your partner might be fantasizing about or what turns them on.
Discuss with your partner and come to a compromise. This will make thing exciting in the bedroom.
- Don't skip date nights
Being married is no excuse to forgo date night. A couple should try and spend one weekend away from their home every three months. Adventurous partners should pick different locations in Ghana where they will have more fun and make sweet indoor and outdoor memories.
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- Get your game night on
Board games and video games can wait. We are talking about sex games that will trigger things.
- Don't forget foreplay
Once people get married, the rate at which they engage in intense foreplay diminishes and eventually, sex becomes a boring activity. Love making is supposed to be pleasurable and something people do wholeheartedly.
The act of foreplay gratifies the act of sex. It is the first phase of lovemaking and its importance shouldn't be underestimated. It contributes to stronger erections for him, and stronger orgasms for her.
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- Change your sheets
If you want to enjoy your lovemaking, slip on clean bedsheets and cut all forms of distractions.
Choose sheets that feel yummy on your skin and create a sense of sexiness in your mind.
- Change locations
Simple ways to get your adrenaline pumping is to stay out of the bedroom and do it somewhere else.
Keep things exciting in the shower, the kitchen, on the dining room table. Try to shake it up and make it different so that it brings in an element of the unknown.
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- Learn how your partner likes to be invited to have sex
So many couples incorrectly assume that they can perfectly read each other's signals when it comes to letting each other know they'd like to get frisky.
It's best to have a playful conversation at a neutral time and ask each other how they best like to be asked for sex. You may be surprised at what you find at this simple way of opening up the lines of communication, according to brides.