What is the meaning of passive-aggressive, who is a passive aggressive person and how do you know you are a passive aggressive?

Relationship Help doctor, Rhoberta Shaler writes this eye-opening article on YourTango to help you know who you really are.

Here's what she wrote: How do you know if you are passive-aggressive? Aside from the obvious wake of people who won't get close to you, there are certain things to think about to determine if your behavior is truly passive-aggressive or not.

Good news, people are not passive-aggressive by nature. It's their communication and conflict management patterns that are, and these are learned. Luckily, those patterns can change with some insights, skills and relationship advice. So, if this post helps you see your passive-aggressive behaviors, you will understand why others find it difficult to be around on you, trust you, and respect you as you would like to be trusted and respected. You confuse them. People move away from folks who purposefully confuse them — if they are smart.

In order to make passive-aggressive traits abundantly clear to you, I'm offering you a very straightforward list. You may find it harsh. I hope you find it home-hitting and immediately revealing. If these traits describe you as you usually are, I invite you to sit up and take notice. You likely do not even realize you are doing these things. Once you read them and ponder your own behavior, you may finally understand why you are having difficulties having the relationships you most want, at home and at work.

More good news, the more willing to work on yourself you are, the greater your chances of having the life with others that you crave. When you realize how you are pushing them away by your crazy-making behaviors, you can change things within yourself. When you a trustworthy within yourself, you will be perceived as trustworthy by others.

Although men and women express their passive-aggressive behaviors somewhat differently, generally, you are behaving in passive-aggressive ways if you are regularly: