Relationship experts claim that adults nowadays spend too much time dating.
According to them, dating brings too much heartache and people should marry first and and dating should come after saying "I do".
It is also believed that couples can experience true happiness only when they are married. And also when you have someone and something to come home to only then will you experience freedom like you never have before.
Terri Trespicio from YourTango gives three reasons why couples should marry first, date each other after":
Marriage requires serious compromise (and always will): The fact is anyone who wants a specific thing must make some compromises to get it, whether it's something material like a fancy apartment, or something more spiritual like a spouse. And this isn't even just about marriage. If you want sex without relationship, you can have it, but you're still making a sacrifice; you risk not having a supportive bond. If you want marriage more than anything else, you can do that, too, provided you're willing to do away with the impossible standards and endless dealbreakers you've clung to in your search for Mr. Perfect ... who doesn't exist, by the way. In other words, you must have the willpower to COMMIT first ... and then LOVE second. After all, it's only (fairly) recently that we demanded the whole package—true love, intellectual match, perfect partner, and best friend forever. As Stephanie Coontz taught us in Marriage: A History, for most of recorded history, love was a pretty fickle reason to get married. Marriage was more about creating a family unit and a stable life, which is why today, with so many couples marrying for love alone, so many of us are leaving in droves.
DIY marriage actually works. Maybe it will work for you too: You know where I'm going here, right? Because what Chen is essentially telling you to do is perform your own arranged marriage. And you can decide to do it now. If what you want is a committed, long-term bond, then maybe this is the way to go. It's estimated that 55 percent of the world's marriages are arranged, 90 percent of which happen in India. The divorce rate, as you probably know, is roughly 50 percent in this country. Guess how many divorces result from arranged marriages? Four percent. That's not because people are happier elsewhere or don't suffer the same emotions or experiences that all couples do. It just means the ones who enter into arranged marriages don't do so with the same expectations as others do. They kind of say, "He'll do," and let the bond form over time. Then, love grows. Certainly not in all cases, but a lot more than you realize. Full lives, children, and a summer home, can all be yours, too. Do countries where arranged marriages occur have a history of oppressed women, though? Yes. Have women historically been treated as chattel, a bartering chip for securing land, power, and influence? You bet. Do I like the idea of women not being able to choose? Of course not. In a first-world country, you can choose. You just aren't. As a non-wed woman (currently in a relationship) who never had the real drive or compulsion to get married, it's ironic to admit that I'm squarely behind this argument. I realize that, but I am. While we all want to feel loved and connect with someone, we don't all need to, nor should we all be, married. But if you do want to get married first and foremost, well, Chen's way makes a lot of sense.
A successful relationship is something you must work at: Here's where our cultural expectations get the best of us. We fall under this spell from a fairly young age, believing we should just have something magical—true, everlasting love. We think it's our God-given right and fairy tale romance should happen. Then, we're so beside ourselves when it doesn't happen the way Disney said it would. In what other area of your life would you expect something like that to just materialize because you're entitled to it? You don't assume you "deserve" a CEO position if you've never held an office job, right? You don't just walk into a company with no relevant experience and say, "I'll take that job up there in the corner office." When they deny you, you stomp out in a huff and complain there are no jobs out there. Of course you wouldn't do that, but that's exactly what women (and lots of men) do when it comes to relationships. I realize corporate hierarchy is a limping analogy, but you do want the job, so to speak. And if you want marriage and to live a married life, you have to start with what's available and commit to making the most of your life. I'll admit, the idea of "dating" the person you married is appealing. It's enough to make me wonder if we waste all the good stuff while we're courting and then bore ourselves to tears after we exchange vows.