Tim Ferriss: The type of mentors who tend to be the most helpful are those who donât necessarily give you an answer.
My name is Tim Ferriss, angel investor and author of books including âThe 4-Hour Workweekâ and the latest, âTribe of Mentors.â
Very frequently weâll ask someone, for instance: âWhat advice would you give to a 30-year-old just getting started in your industry? What is the best advice you would give?â And just as important, I think, you should ask, âWhat advice should that person ignore?â Or: âWhat is the worst advice you hear repeated often in your industry? What is the conventional wisdom that you disagree with?â
Those types of questions give you a not-to-do list. And it is what you donât do that provides the space for what you can do. Anyone who says, âYou should do this the way I did it,â without any caveats, should be maybe ignored in many cases, but certainly viewed with suspicion.
The type of mentors who tend to be the most helpful are those who donât necessarily give you an answer, but they give you a better way of finding that answer.
âIâm leaving my second job. I want to start my own company. What should I do?â And they say, âWell, I canât tell you what you should do, because I donât have enough information,â which is a huge credibility point, in my mind, that they have the awareness to say that. And they say, âBut if I were in your position, here is how I might think through it.â
So look for mentors who donât necessarily give you answers but who walk you through the process of how they might think about making the proper decision given all of your particulars.