As long as couples are not willing to go the extra mile for their partners, there will always be a strain in the relationship
These days real romance is dying fast between couples as a result of situations which is seen as normal because no one wants to put an extra effort.
As long as couples are not willing to go the extra mile for their partners, there will always be a strain in the relationship, it may be simple courtesy. But as long as these dating norms exists, there will be no rela romance among couples.
Compiled by Beliefnet, here are several dating norms couples need to stop accepting:
Having to Keep Working for Their Approval: The minute you feel that you have to prove your worth to the person you’re with is the minute you’ll know to walk away. A man or woman should be with you because they value and appreciate who you are, not what you do or how well you sell yourself to them.
Continuously Repeating the Same Mistakes: A second chance means nothing if they haven’t learned from their first mistake. Someone who keeps promising to change or do things differently, but repeatedly doesn’t, is showing you a clear pattern that you need to recognize. If these are issues that are causing problems for you or your life, it may be time to walk away.
Invasion of Privacy: In a healthy relationship, there is no need to hide anything. Texts, emails, facebook messages – whatever. But that doesn’t mean your partner has the right to snoop through them if you happen to leave your phone around or your computer open. Someone who does this is showing you a massive insecurity on their part and is likely projecting their own infidelities and issues onto you. This should not be ignored.
"Hey, wanna hang out?" Texts: This of course only goes for situations where you want something more than just a casual arrangement with someone. If this is a guy that you’re feeling out to see if he would be a good partner in the long term, then it’s important to recognize whether or not he is making a real investment in building a relationship. If the maximum effort he puts in during the courting phase is inviting you over to watch a movie on a weekend, what reason do you have to believe he will pull his weight in a committed relationship? If you keep agreeing to go and hang out with him, you have little to no chance of him changing his ways. Why would he?
ANY SORT OF ABUSE WHATSOEVER: Were the bold italic letters really necessary? Yes. They were. Too many people stay in relationships where there is abuse. This doesn’t *necessarily* mean there is physical abuse, but mental and/or emotional can be just as hurtful, in different ways. It doesn’t matter how much you “love” someone or how much they’ve convinced you they love you in return, if they make you miserable more than they make you happy, you need to let them go.
Being Unclear About Intentions: One of the most common complaints I hear (typically from women…ahem, guys…) is related to the lack of direction that many ‘relationships’ these days have. Either complete lack of communication about intentions, or just downright lying about what he or she may/may not want in the long term, in order to get what they want in the short term. If you are looking for a serious relationship, you deserve to be with someone who has made it clear to you that they are on the same page.
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