Relationships are hard, and more so when they're long distance. Over the course of our lives, there will certainly come a time when we are involved in one, whether we like it or not, whether we wished for it or not.
They say , absence makes the heart grow fonder, but what's also true is that prolonged absence might make the heart wander.
Before you lose heart, know that there are simple-yet effective ways to help your long distance relationships thrive and keep the love just as strong. Here are some tips to keep in mind...
Ups and Down
Here's the plain truth -no couple in a long-distance relationship has ever had it easy, so be mentally prepared for it. If you are serious about the relationship, then long-distance is a big commitment. So, either dive into it fully, or don't at all. Look forward to the good moments, and be prepared to ride though the bad ones.
Trust each other
This five-letter word is important in any relationship, but more so when you're far away from your loved one. If you don't have trust, you really have nothing. Don't be over possessive.
Respect your partner's individual space and freedom. That way, not only will you earn your partner's love, but also his or her respect.
Don't make assumptionsIt's a common tendency to make assumptions about what your partner is up to, or who he or she is with, when you haven't been able to get in touch with them. Just know that it's human tendency to fear the unknown and always expect the worse.
So, don't poison your mind by coming to any adverse conclusion, and even worse, act on it, unless you've had a chance to know the things you'd like to know.FAIR TREATMENTIt's a simple code, which, if followed, will make the relationship work like a charm -treat your partner the way you would want to be treated. If you love your space, give them some too.
If you love to be showered with praises and gifts, return the favour. Make compromises and take turns -be it in initiating contact, travelling to see each other or putting an end to an argument.
Dirty talk over phone video chatPhysical intimacy hovers right on top of the list of things that couples miss the most in a long-distance relationship, so why not make the most of the available technology to fill that void?
Talk about what you miss the most about you and your partner's intimate moment, or what you'd like to do sexually when you see each other next. But be warned -technology is a double-edged sword, so don't indulge in this if you don't fully trust your partner.
Plan aheadMaintaining a long-distance relationship definitely requires some planning -when to talk, when to visit, taking time off, etc. It's the first few months that will be the hardest, until the two of you settle into a routine. Once you do, you'll find it easier to be in touch.
Surprise themSend an unexpected text message professing your love for your partner. Send an adorable WhatsApp video of their favourite pet. Tag them in a funny online video. Go to an online store and send a gift.
Call up your partner and tell a joke. Do things which let them that know that they're often in your thoughts. It's the small things that go a long way in keeping the relationship going.
Re-assess at regular intervalsCouples often invest a lot of time, energy and money into keeping a long-distance relationship alive, so you have every right to hope that everything goes well. But when they don't, re-assess the situation, and ask yourself if you are truly happy in the relationship. Are things still not going the way you thought they might?
Talk it out. And if nothing seems to work, then it might be wise to put an end to the relationship -better to be single, than be in a strained, stressful one.