But top of mind for 38-year-old Amy was what : she wants her 8-month-old son Gene to have a sibling (or two), and she and her husband, chef Chris Fischer, are trying in vitro fertilization again to do it.
I really hope our family grows, Amy told Oprah in front of a sold-out crowd of 15,000 people. Im definitely hoping for two, and maybe more. Ive really had a beautiful experience having a baby. Its different for everyone. But I really have to recommend that, if you have the resources to have a baby, that you have a baby. Its been so life changing for me."
The day-long event was full of inspirational stories, energy, and setting intentions. Amy even did some vision-casting herself.
What I see for my family, what I want, what I wish for...what Im going to take steps toward, is health, Amy told Oprah. Keeping us all as healthy as possible. ...I picture us all on the beach together, me teaching maybe a little girl how to play volleyball.
But, Amy added, life doesnt always turn out how you envisioned it.
Right now, most of my day is spent cleaning poop off the tiniest pair of balls youve ever seen in your life, just with a little cotton swab, Amy said. That was not on my vision board.
Amy told Oprah she wasnt sure she wanted kids at one point. And three months into her relationship with her now-husband, she told him that.
I think a lot of us might identify with this, Amy told Oprah. When you start liking someone...youre afraid of getting hurt, so you either sabotage it right away, or you just (know) how its going to end right away. Were used to a level of control So I was texting him early in our relationship and I said, Just so you know, I dont know if you want kids, so if thats something youre looking for, I dont know if thats going to be me.
He wrote right back, Amy said.
He said, I do want kids, and I want them with you. ...Well have a beautiful family, and I cant wait.
What did you do? Oprah asked Amy, laughing.
I was standing in my closet, Amy replied. I had to hold the wall, hold on a minute.
But its that steady confidence, that self-assuredness that Amy said she has always loved about Fischer. That and his cooking (ICYMI, hes an award-winning chef and farmer dedicated to the farm-to-table movement).
So how does being married to a chef work? Oprah asked Amy. Does it mean hes fixing fancy things for you all the time?
Amy laughed. I want to say no because you guys will hate me. But, yes! Every night, bitches. ...Its amazing. Whoever youre with, dump them and find a chef.
So you dont cook for him? Oprah asked.
No, Amy replied. And he doesnt stand there and tell me jokes.
But they do joke around all the time, she added.
Chris and I, actually, weve been role playing, Amy said. I always go, Okay, Im in a coma. Thats my sex role play. Im the laziest person youll ever meet.
Oprah did ask Amy if any jokes are off-limits to her.
"I do think some things are off-limits," she said. "And I know that because I have said those jokes. It honestly just doesn't feel good. Like I used to do the [] Comedy Central roasts. And I realized, you think, 'Oh, nobody gets their feelings hurt, it's a roast.' People hurt your feelings. And Ive had my feelings hurt. And so I don't want to hurt people's feelings. So if I think that there's someone out there and it's gonna hurt their feelings, I'm not gonna say it anymore."
