Depression is usually brought on by factors beyond our control - the death of a loved one, a job loss, or financial troubles.
But the small choices you make every day may also affect your mood more than you may realize.
Luckily, these behaviors can be changed. Read on for 12 ways youâre sabotaging your good moods, and what you can do to turn it around.
You slouch when you walk
How we feel can affect the way we walk, but the inverse is also true, finds a study published in the Journal of Behavior Therapy and Experimental Psychiatry. Researchers found that when subjects were asked to walk with shoulders slouched, hunched over, and with minimum arm movements, they experienced worse moods than those who had more pep in their steps. Whatâs more, participants who walked in the slouchy style remembered more negative things rather than positive things. Talk about depressing.
Get happy now:Â Lift your chin up and roll your shoulders back to keep your outlook on the positive side.
You take pictures of EVERYTHING
Instagram queens, listen up. Haphazardly snapping pictures may hamper how you remember those moments, according to a study published inPsychological Science. In the study, participants took a museum tour, observing some objects and snapping pics of others. Afterward, they had a harder time remembering the items they photographed compared with the ones they looked at. âThe lens is a veil in front of your eyes and we donât realize itâs there,â says Diedra L. Clay, PsyD, chair and associate professor of the counseling and health psychology department at Bastyr University in Kenmore, Wash.
Get happy now:Â Focus on your subjects when taking picturesâor, better yet, just sit back and enjoy yourself. Soak up the beauty and participate in the action. These are the things the will make you mentally stronger, says Clay.
Youâre letting a bully get the best of you
Bullying doesnât end when you leave school. Approximately 54 million workers, or 35% of U.S. employees, are targeted by a bully at some point in their careers, according to the Workplace Bullying Institute. More than 70% of people have witnessed a workplace bully, says Erin K. Leonard, PhD, a practicing psychotherapist and author of the book, Emotional Terrorism: Breaking the Chains of a Toxic Relationship. âBeing attacked maliciously in the place of pride and self-esteem continuously, it can be devastating. It makes you emotional volatile so that it is even difficult to get up and go work.â
Get happy now:Â The Workplace Bullying Institute recommends you first make an appointment with your doctor to discuss your physical and mental health. Then, after youâve carefully documented as many of your interactions as possible, follow the organizationâs three-step action plan.
You donât exercise
Consider this: If you become more active three times a week, your risk of being depressed decreases 19%, according to a new study in JAMA Psychiatry. After following more than 11,000 people born in 1958 up until the age of 50, and recording depressive symptoms and levels of physical activity at regular intervals, University College London researchers found a correlation between physical activity and depression. People who were depressed were less likely to be active, while those who were active were less likely to be depressed. In fact, for every time they were active, depression risk decreased 6%.
Get happy now:Â Just get out and move. It doesnât need to be for longâwalking to errands if possible, taking the stairsâbut any activity will help keep your mind moving.
You procrastinate
Think about a task youâve been putting off. If the reason is because itâs boring or you just donât feel like doing it, well, we canât help you there. But if youâre avoiding the task because it makes you anxious or because youâre afraid of failing, then procrastinating just makes completing it more nerve-wracking.
Get happy now:Â Before you finally tackle your problem head-on, do something that helps you ease stress: listen to music, go for a run, Leonard suggests engaging in an activity that helps disintegrate the anxiety. This way you can insert a bit of fun into it, instead of stress.
Youâre in a toxic relationship
âI have many clients suffering from anxiety and depression not realize itâs because of a toxic relationship,â Leonard says. âIt eats away their self-esteem. Their partners have them believing that they are incompetent, or selfish. Sometimes it takes years for people to realize that their depression and their anxiety comes from their relationships and that they have been dismantled.â
Get happy now:Â You may need some help with this one. First, read up on the signs that your partner may be abusive. Then, consult either a professional, a family member, or a close friend to help you recognize the signs.
You take life too seriously
You trip on a crack in the sidewalk, and instead of shrugging it off, you cower with embarrassment. If that sounds like you, itâs time to find some ways to laugh more. âThere are many studies showing the benefits of laughter on our health and this includes mental health,â Leonard says. âLaughter is the fast medicine for anxiety and depression.â
Get happy now:Â Seek out humor every day. Watch a funny TV show, listen to the Laugh USA channel on SiriusXM Radio, or spend time with friends who make you smile. You could even try volunteering with kidsâthey really do say the darndest things.
You donât sleep
âSleep affects everything,â says Diedra L. Clay, PsyD, chair and associate professor of the counseling and health psychology department at Bastyr University, âemotional and mental capabilities, as well as our bodiesâ functioning. Sleep is our bodies way of regenerating and without it the system malfunctions.â
Get happy now:Â Try to figure out why you arenât sleeping and then take the steps to create a restful environment.
Youâre never alone
Between kids, work, marriage, and other activities, you canât find a moment to be alone (and locking yourself in the bathroom doesnât count). Leonard stresses the importance of finding time for yourself, whether it is 10 minutes, an hour, or a day. Without taking the time to do things for you, depression and anxiety creep in, says Leonard.
Get happy now: Schedule an appointment for you time. And more importantly, keep it.
You donât actually talk to anyone
If you primarily use texting, Facebook, and other social media to stay in touch with friends, youâre not having meaningful contactâand chatting up the Starbucks barista every morning doesnât count. âFacebook pages are entertainment,â Clay says. âThese are not true conversations that allow us to understand people. Instead, it lessens our experiences and feelings.â Michael Mantell, PhD, a behavioral sciences coach based in San Diego, Calif., agrees. âPersonal electronics (like smartphones) have also impacted attention, demands for immediate gratification, and expectations that the press of a button can lead to instantaneous connection,â Mantell says. âWe have also learned to not have face-to-face connections, only virtual. This impacts our ability and interest in sitting in the same room with someone, and actually talk with people face-to-face.â
Get happy now:Â âAt the end of or lives, the number of followers we have doesnât matter,â Clay says. âBut friends do.â Make sure to schedule a date with a friend, family member, or partner at least once week.
You canât live without your mobile phone
When was the last time that you were completely electronic-device free? Canât remember? Not a good sign. âWith all the devices we have, it tends to overstimulate us,â Clay says. âAnd if we are always on, then we never truly rest and regenerate our bodies and our minds.â Eventually, this can manifest itself as depression or anxiety.
Get happy now:Â Create an electronic Sabbath, where you abstain from all devices once a week, even if just for half a day.
You multitask
Weâre all guilty of multitasking: we take lunch at our desks, scroll through Facebook while watching TV, and text pretty much constantly. Research shows that although many people believe theyâre being more productive by multitasking, thatâs not actually the caseâit just leaves us stressed out, oblivious to our surroundings, and unable to communicate effectively.
Get happy now:Â Itâs simple, really: put down the phone, turn off the television, and pay attention to what you are doing and what is going on around you. Allowing your brain to process everything that is happening to you in real time (and not broadcasting it to your social media followers) may be the best thing you can do for your mental health.
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