Openly discussing our sexual desires can be one of the hardest thing for men and women to do. (Even though, inevitably, it always leads to better sex.) But even if the one we love doesnt know our kinks, odds are good that our computers do.
After all, both men and women watch porn, and the type of porn we seek out and choose to watch can say a lot about our desires, even if we won't say them out loud ourselves.
Stemming from this line of thought, Harvard PhD Seth Stephens-Davidowitz conducted research to determine what our Internet searches say about our sexuality. The results of his findings, which have been compiled in his new book Everybody Lies, were discussed at length during a recent interview Stephens-Davidowitz conducted with Vox.
For example, by analyzing data from websites like Pornhub, Stephens-Davidowitz said, he was able to determine that a considerable number of women are watching girl-on-girl videos when they visit the site.
"About 20 percent of the porn women watch is lesbian porn," he said. "A lot of straight women watch lesbian porn."
Stephens-Davidowitz also confirmed that many women like watching rough or violent sex.
"Porn featuring violence against women is also extremely popular among women. It is far more popular among women than men. I hate saying that because misogynists seem to love this fact. Fantasy life isn't always politically correct," he said. "The rate at which women watch violent porn is roughly the same in every part of the world. It isn’t correlated with how women are treated."
This shouldn't be entirely surprising; after all, as we've pointed out in the past, 62 percent of women like rough sex. However, as a reminder, talk through this type of experimentation with your partner first, and be sure to establish boundaries and safe words beforehand. To learn more, check out the Men's Health guide to kinky sex, and add this vibrating cock ring to your bedroom routine for extra pleasure for both of you.