Cheating is an ordeal most people don’t want to experience. Give them a thieving partner and they may be just fin. The lying, cheating partner they just can’t take.

When your partner cheats on you with another person, it is involves more a mere bruising of your emotions.

It is even more traumatizing if your partner cheats on you over a sustained period of time. In fact, some people never recover from the infidelity of their partners.

It is possible that you will never stop asking what you did that made them cheat on you. Were they really that unhappy, or were they just born to cheat?

These are a few signs that can help save you from the unpleasant shock at the discovery of your partner’s unfaithfulness.

1. If you think he/she is cheating, he/she most likely is

If you keep getting the nagging sensation that your partner is cheating on you, chances are he/she is. It is possible that you’re just being insecure and possibly, crazy. But Nature gave you your instincts for a reason, so they may not be wrong after all.

You have trusted your instincts on a number of occasions; this situation may not be so different from the countless times your instincts were proven right. There is one thing to remember, however. If you’re suspicions are based on just your instincts, it will be wiser to hold on to your confrontations until you have substantial evidence to build your case.

2. The no-discussion-friend

If your partner has a friend of the opposite sex who they are unwilling to talk about with you, there is the likelihood that they are engaged in an affair with this friend.

Or planning to, at least. If your partner gets agitated, uncomfortable and defensive every time you bring up this friend in casual conversations, then you have every suspicious to be suspicious.

3. Unnecessary little lies about where they are

If your partner consistently lies about where they are, it is possible that they are hiding something: a secret-engagement party, a drug-habit, or an affair.

If your partner constantly goes to the ends of the world to explain the casual question of “hey luv, where were you today”, this will be a good time to get your heart, and head, together before the existence of his/her new lover is thrust upon you.

4. He/she loses interest in initiating romance, and at times, sex

Previously there were things that the both of you loved doing. It was ‘our time’ for you both: strolls, reading together, cooking, making love etc.

If your partner is always not in the mood to do the very things you both loved to do, there is a high likelihood that they have found someone else who is keeping them physically and emotionally occupied.

5. Tantrums and name-calling

If you suspect that your partner is being unfaithful, and you confront them in a civil manner; there are several reactions they could adopt. The guiltiest of these reactions, and the one which shows they could be having an affair, is when they fly into a rage and call you names.

If your partner really loves you and is wholehearted committed to making your relationship work, they would try to assuage your fear; they won’t call you insecure, paranoid, jealous, or even crazy. If your partner gets erratic at civil conversations on faithfulness, it is possible they are hiding a secret affair.

By Dede Williams