Casual dating is a type of relationship between people who go on dates and spend time together in an ongoing way without the expectation of entering into a long-term, committed relationship.
Casually dating someone usually means you like them enough to want to hang out with them regularly but are either not ready for a serious relationship or just don't want one, whether that's in general or just with this person in particular.
There is no commitment and possibly a lack of interest in establishing a serious, meaningful relationship.
The moment you feel so desperate not to let a guy go hence, you beg him to stay with fewer expectations from you, it sucks!
Never stoop so low in the standard pool and allow someone access your companionship solely on their terms.
Here are some brutal truths about consenting to a casual union when that isnât what youâre looking for:
- Nothing that's forced works
Why waste your energy on tolerating a setup thatâs less than what you truly desire? You would have to put a cap on how much emotional attachment you show and act on regardless of how you actually feel. Bottling feelings inside that you canât let out will eventually cause you to implode and wreak havoc on your well-being. Donât sign yourself up for that kind of torture.
- You're short-changing yourself
Why make yourself available for situationships if youâre wifey material? Market yourself for what youâre worth. Guys should earn access to you, not be allowed to enjoy the perks of what you have to offer sans commitment. Make them work for you or kick them to the curb. If they donât want to stick around because you demand more, youâre better off without them in your life anyway.
- It's a lie
The truth always comes out and at the end of the day, youâd be the one in the wrong for being deceptive. If he never wanted more and you both agreed to this arrangement upfront, you canât blame him for acting accordingly and not changing his mind when your feelings get deeper. Heâs just sticking to the plan. Stop thinking you can create a situation out of âpotentialâ and see things for what they are.
- You could miss a real opportunity
Attaching yourself to dead-end relationships keeps you occupied. When a guy whoâs looking for a genuine serious commitment comes along, heâll see you as tied up with these flings and continue his search for someone who is available. You could lose a chance at exactly what youâre looking for by lingering in less than that. Itâs okay and better, in the long run, to be alone until what you want presents itself.
- It's demeaning
If you agree to a casual connection when you want more, thereâs no telling what will go on in your relationship. You could be allowing open hooking up, inconsistency, and a lack of special attention for major events and holidays. You canât even complain because you didnât set the proper boundaries to expect otherwise.
- You deserve to be happy
Why willingly consent to emotional martyrdom? Be real with yourself about what you want. If you keep doing what youâre doing youâll keep getting what youâve been getting, so make a change and stop blocking your blessings. The only path to true fulfilment is to take risks for your goals.