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Real Talk Avoiding the friend zone

People have more attraction and respect for individuals for whom they perform favours. They also find relationships more valuable and commit more fully, when they invest in them to an appreciable degree.

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The term ‘friend zone’ describes a situation in which one member of a friendship wishes to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship, while the other does not. It is a mismatch in romantic feelings between two individuals. 

The easiest signs that you are in the friend zone are when she talks about other guys to you or gets too comfortable around you. If you notice these you will have to completely re-adjust your line of action if you want to score with her.

  • Being Bold and Ask

A reason why people end up in the friend zone is that they are too afraid, uncertain, or passive. Many people first approach someone they are attracted to as "just a friend" because it is easier and less emotionally-risky.

Rather than getting stuck in the friend zone by being scared, it is often more productive to state what you desire upfront. The object of your desire should know that you notice them; that you might see them in a ‘non-just-friend’ way.

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  • Flirt with Her

Most guys wind up as “just friends” with girls because they don’t know how to flirt in a way that creates sexual awareness and fosters attraction.

  • Don’t be too “agreeable”

 If you want to be mere friends with a girl, then treat her like she is one of your friends.  This means you shouldn’t hide your opinions, try too hard to impress her, or don’t compromise to please her.

People have more attraction and respect for individuals for whom they perform favours. They also find relationships more valuable and commit more fully, when they invest in them to an appreciable degree.

By doing all the work, you shoot yourself in the foot and imprison yourself in the friend zone. Thus, to avoid the friend zone, effort and investment must be balanced on both sides.

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  • Be Attractive

“Friend zoned" individuals just don't spark the chemistry to make the other person desire them in anyway. They think, “why bother to put on cologne, she will like me with or without cologne if she really likes me.” 

As such, the attraction is one-sided and they receive nothing in return for all the love they harbor. Fortunately, people can learn to be more attractive physically and psychologically. They can work to groom better, get nicer clothing, improve their body language, and get in better shape.

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They can also learn to develop social skills like approaching others with confidence, creating sexually stimulating conversations. By working on "sex appeal", individuals can be more likely to be put in the category of "lover" than "friend"

By Ivy Antwi

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