It is believed that it is men who often cheat in marriages.
However, people hardly give these men the opportunity to justify what many see as a bad habit.
A Ghanaian on Facebook, has given men this opportunity to share their cheating experiences and also give reasons why they do that.
He subsequently shared the shocking stories on his timeline and has received many comments.
Read the stories below.
1. âDave, this whole cheating thing erh, itâs not like itâs our fault oh⊠Charley, the thing feels WRONG, but at the same time, it feels GOOD!â
2. âIâm Nine (9) inches long, thick and wide. She canât seem to take all of me inside her. And, she was a virgin when we married. Weâve tried everything to enable her enjoy sex with me, but sheâs always in pain and bruises. Anytime I want sex, sheâd be in tears. I donât know for how long this marriage to her may last, because I love sex, rough sex, and sheâs too âgreenâ slow and âgodlyâ for my liking. I want a wife at home, and a âslutâ in the bedroom. Sheâs too much of a wife for me, and she canât seem to find her balance. It turns me off. Thatâs why Iâve been cheating.â
3. âMy wifeâs Church was organizing a couples retreat, and one of her Church-member friends, made a pass at me, and slept with me the following week. She is married too. I did feel guilty but I donât think I slept with her because I wasnât happy in my marriage⊠Nah, far from it. Wife and I are very cool. These things just happen every now and then.â
4. âI suck at confrontation. The relationship wasnât working. She knew, yet kept hoping things could change. I wasnât interested anymore, so I cheated my way out of it.â
5. âBeing with my wife now, honestly, feels like she doesn't really care about my emotional needs or what's happening with me on a daily basis anymore. Thatâs why I had to find someone else who appeared more interested and excited about me.â
6. âWife is lazy in bed. When it comes to sex, Iâm an action movies. Sheâs into drama. Sexually, we are not compatible.â
7. âIâve been married for 11 years. I am in love with my wife. I love my family, however, when the opportunity knocks, my zip ought to come down. Itâs a manâs thing. Thank you.â
8. âI am 49 years old, and I think I feel like an âoldâ man when I am with my wife. The âMeâ I know used to love life. I loved adventure, fun, and the challenge. I am cheating because this side-attraction, knows how to make me feel young. Itâs like, Iâm at my prime age again â when Iâm with her.â
9. âI love being given blowjobs. I love going down on women, âAnotafrebomskiâ. My wife wouldnât give me blowjobs because she finds it disgusting. She would rush me to penetrate her when I would want to go down, take time to explore and play with her âpunaanaâ. Iâm cheating because she doesnât excite me. Outsiders do.â
10. âMy relationship was going rather too fast for me. I wanted to go out and see the world, before saying âForsaking all othersâŠâ And I sowed my wild oats, before settling down. A blast from the past showed up at my office â and I couldnât just let her go liadat! That was when I started cheating on my wife.â
11. âI cheat because I am not born to be with just one woman. Itâs not right!â
12. âA job opportunity came my way after being home for over Three (3) years. I did not really look into the specifics of the job because I was eager to start doing something. The friend who introduced me to the job assured me that I qualified. All they needed was a full photo of me and my CV. I got to the interview, only to find out it was a fertility-kind-of clinic, which had other chain of businesses operating, on the same building, as cover-ups.
We were supposed to be âbaby making machinesâ for a monthly salary of a few thousands of GHs plus bonuses. I was given a car, a cover-up office, and my main office, which had a bedroom, toilet and bath, a kitchen, and a hall. Customers would just profile us, and then choose whom to âworkâ with. A customer may choose to go the natural way, or I wank and cum into a container for it to be inseminated in them. So far, I am fathering over 29 kids. And most of my customers preferred natural intercourse until they took seed.
All my customers are married women whose husbands are, or may be impotent. Iâve also had customers who just preferred a certain gene to father their kids â instead of their husbandâs gene. The woman I am sleeping with currently is my wifeâs friend, who paid for our services, and chose me to work on her. She got pregnant, but afterwards, threatened to blackmail me to my wife, if I did not build a sexual relationship with her. Weâve been dating for over Four (4) years now, and my wife nor her husband have a clue. I have fallen in love with her over time, so you could say I am in love with two women. She helped me find a new job.â
13. âMy girlfriend finds me attractive; my wife doesnât: At least, not anymore.â
14. âSo why do we men really cheat? Well, I am newly married, a month old to be precise. I remember vividly those days when I frequent David Mbir's page to glimpse on what marriage was all about. And it was just one word I could use to describe it then: SCARY. So back to the question. I'll use those days when I was dating as an example. The lady I dated prior to the woman I married gave me a sour relationship. I almost forgot "the how" and "the feeling" and "the sparks" being in a relationship. It got to a point where I began to see her as my sister hence not attractive.
To paint a better picture; we couldn't even last 10 seconds in kissing not to even talk about hugging and squeezing and caressing. When I initiate, she will push me away. It was like we were having Sumo Wrestling in bed just trying to have one-dying-kiss. When I asked her why she does that; she will say to me that she doesn't trust me. She said it was because of her past lover who had his way with her by spiking her drink which I felt sorry for her. And so I was in this relationship for Three (3) years hoping things will change, hoping she will be exciting, hoping she will be spontaneous, hoping she will crave for my hotness in her wetness.
I am the kind of guy that get emotional with words. I enjoy naughty conversation. So as a consolation, I frequently used to initiate sex chat with her hoping that could trigger some nerve in her body. But when I start, she would use a detour to come out. Or there were some days that she would gel well into the idea of us to be intimate but when we finally see then she switched back into a Sumo Wrestler. So I cried to my wife (then my friend) and somehow, someway, we met and we enjoyed every bit of it. That sensation chasing a fresh fish in the sea.
That usual constant checking ups. Something was borne out of our friendship into love. And when I finally had the chance to kiss her after we watched a movie at the mall. I felt goosebumps on her arms. My wife was practically trembling with just my kiss. I felt special. My ego boosted. I wanted to have more. I wanted a woman that appreciates my kiss, my touch, my cuddling. Dave, it was then I knew I had wasted three years of my life. So Yes! I cheated but I don't regret.â
15. âWeight is an issue for me. If she hadnât gained so much weight.â
16. âDave, I donât know if mine is cheating though: I enjoy sexting and flirting online only. There is no harm in that, is there? After all, I donât meet up with any of these women in person. In fact, to me, itâs just a game.â
17. âI lost my job a few years back. Staying at home doing nothing, applying for jobs and not getting any - left me depressed and frustrated. I found myself drinking more than usual, and some of these girls at these bars are to die for, Dave. I âdiedâ for a few.â
18. âIâve been attracted to the same-sex for as long as I can remember. I married a woman to fit the âmanlyâ role society has created for men. Do I love my wife? No! Do I love my kids? Yes! Am I in love with my gay partner (who is also married with kids)? Yes! I am very much in love with him. We are able to make time to be with each other, many times in a week. And because we are also both friends with the otherâs significant other, we are able to be together in each otherâs home, when our wives are away. Itâs been 25 years of knowing my male partner. Iâve been married to my wife for 12 years.â
19. âSex in the morning, sex in the evening and sex at dawn is what keeps me sane every day. I want it every day, so when I was getting less than I knew I was entitled to, at home, in our forth month of marriage, I had to seek for it out there⊠And I got it in abundance.â
20. âSocial media makes me sin. When a fine girl reaches out to me on Facebook, or WhatsAppâs something sexy (photo/nasty sentences, etc.) I go with the flow. I used to âfightâ it, so I stay faithful to my wife, but Dave, the means to enable me cheat are just there â in my home. Technology cause âam.â
21. âI cheated because I became too used to my wife. I needed something different, something fresh.â
22. I recently had a baby girl with my friend. We met through an assignment. She is divorced and is leading a very comfortable life. I hit on her because she is matured, single and wanted to have a baby. We hit it out because of our common interest: I have been married for Eight (8) years without children. I wanted kids too, but my wife kept experiencing miscarriages upon miscarriages. We even lost a baby twice. I felt her womb wasnât receptive, so I tried it with my friend and I got the package in Nine (9) months. Healthy baby girl. The most beautiful little thing I have ever seen. We are already having talks about having a boy next year.â
23. âMy wife wanted me to find a substitute to relieve her off her sexual duties. She began to find making love with me a chore. She was okay with me finding one lady to sleep with till her mojo re-activated. Itâs been Eight (8) months now.â
24. âFirst, it was the lump in my wifeâs breast. Then, the bloody nipple discharge. The inverted nipple, the dimpling of the breasts skin, the pains she felt every time I accidently touched her breasts during sex. I am attracted to a woman more because of her breasts. So if all of a sudden, your once fully equipped wife, begins to feel a sore in her nipple, her lymph nodes in the neck and armpit look swollen, sex becomes almost impossible. I had to look the other way. Now, her breast has been removed. Nothing on her attracts me anymore. Itâs just the truth.â
25. âMy wife pissed me off in the most humiliating way, and she wasnât willing to apologize. I had an affair to punish her; to hurt her real bad⊠And, I made sure she knew about it. Sometimes, women need to submit, and know who the man of the house is.â
26. âDave, even though my wife and I have been through a lot in this 18 years of marriage, with my countless messing ups, having numerous affairs due to the distance (Family is in Kumasi, I work in Accra), I know I love my wife with everything in me. Together with our Three (3) kids may not be perfect, but we are everything as a family. Distance is the main reason I am cheating on her. When I used to work in Kumasi, I was faithful. When I was promoted and transferred to Accra, we all couldnât move to Accra: Kids were in school there, she had a business to sustain there, etc. So we agreed on the weekends visitations. And itâs unfortunate I canât go three days without sex.â
Copied from the Facebook page of David Papa Bondze-Mbir.