Why is your partner unwilling to go public with your relationship?

When you’re dating someone, it is only natural that they introduce you to the family and friends. Alarm bells begin to go off when that does not happen soon enough.

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When you’re dating someone, it is only natural that they introduce you to the family and friends. Alarm bells begin to go off when that does not happen soon enough. The reasons people have for keeping their relationships secret are varied. Here are a few of them:

·      Jinxing it- most people believe talking too much and too soon about something that means a lot to them is bad omen. As superstitious as that may sound, it is make perfect sense to some people. If your partner does not want to jinx the relationship, they are likely to keep it under wraps until they are certain nothing bad will happen if they tell others about you.

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·      Treasuring the moment- there’s something dangerously pleasurable about covert affairs. It is like having a treasure hidden in a cave somewhere only you know about. Maybe your partner wants to have you all to themselves before inviting the world into it. If his sister were to find out about you, she may just swoop in and insist on becoming best friends with you.

·      They are just not that into you- Imagine introducing someone to your family a few months after you meet them. Imagine again the awkward questions three months later, when you tell your family that the relationship didn’t work out. You could have saved yourself the drama if you had waited to be sure about how crazy you are about the relationship. Maybe your partner is taking their time to be sure about how much they are into you before they let you out of their closet.

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·      Good old shady- In some cases, when your partner is persistent in keeping you away from his family and friends, he/she could have no other reason than plain old shadiness. Maybe they have a spouse and three kids hidden in plain sight. If that is the case, surely they will want to keep the relationship hushed.

Author is Dede Williams

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