5 Ways to stop dating guys who need 'emotional fixing'

Some women constantly find themselves trying to "fix" a man or in relationship with a man who is emotionally drained with the hope her love would make up for his inefficiencies.

This type of woman may feel it's okay because her love would change and make him better.

According to relationship experts, women who have found themselves in a situation like this have become increasingly frustrated that he is still facing the same struggles as months earlier when they first got together.

The reality is that you may be their reason to want to change, which is a beautiful thing, but they have to do it themselves.

So what do you do if you find yourself in this type of situation, Beliefnet compiles 5 tips to help you break the cycle

Pay attention to his past. How a man has lived his life up until the point he met you is a road taken that you cannot change. Similar to walking into the woods for 10 miles and expecting to be able to walk back out in 1 mile – it’s just not going to happen. If he has a long history of short-lived negative relationships, perhaps a bad or nonexistent relationship with family (constantly revolving around him), or is always placing the blame on women for failed relationships, then I am sorry to say that by willingly dating a man like this you are simply putting yourself in the middle of his destructive path. Like the person who steps off of the tracks in the movie at the last second when the train is coming, it’s time to get out of the way.

Stay away from what feels too comfortable to you. Being comfortable with the person you’re with is, of course, of the utmost importance. But that also depends on what kind of comfort it is. If you are the type of woman who is drawn to these types of men, then familiarity is not necessarily a good thing. If he reminds you of an ex or brings back the same hopeful feelings of being able to help him that you recognize from your past, turn around and walk away. You have got to be honest and ask yourself how these scenarios have turned out for you before. If you were successful in helping someone change and lived happily ever after with him, then you wouldn’t be back out in the world looking for another project.

You fall for who he “could be” if he would just try. The right person for you will absolutely support and encourage you on your journey to become who you’d like to be, while still loving and accepting you as the way you are today. But seeing potential in a man who doesn’t see it in himself and is doing nothing about it, is asking for trouble. If you are going to try to help him open his eyes to who he can be and what he can become, then you are basically attempting to paint on a blank canvas. This is much different than a man who has his path in life carved out and is following after his dreams and ambitions. If you feel that you need to be a mother figure to him and take care of him in order for him to get to where (you think) he should be, you are setting yourself up for disaster.

Understand that lack of a challenge is a good thing. If you are a woman who falls into these patterns, you are probably drawn to the challenge of changing a man. If he would just listen to your guidance and be driven by your love, he would finally become who he should be, after all of these years…wouldn’t he? If this is the case, you probably shy away from men who don’t challenge you in this way. You may even find them boring because they don’t “need” you. If you recognize this pattern in yourself, then you can begin to recognize that someone who doesn’t need you is a good thing and is probably exactly the type of man you should be dating instead. Because let’s face it, your current pattern has not brought you the happiness you expected it to.