How to deal with a stingy boyfriend or husband

Couples giving and receiving gifts and other tangible, valuable things is a well-established relationship dynamic.

And here’s why: no relationship thrives without sharing – and this goes beyond the things you can see and touch.

Partners need to be able to give each other a corresponding amount of effort, respect, attention, love, affection… and yes, as many material things as each one can afford.

So if you are in a relationship with a guy who has problems sharing, especially material things, you are not overreacting by feeling uncomfortable with such behaviour.

And if you're wondering how to deal with this, we have the answers below

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This is how to cope with a stingy boyfriend or husband

Do any of these if your boyfriend or husband is certified stingy.

1. Talk to him about it

This is the first base of almost all relationship issues. Sometimes people do some wrong things not with the intention to hurt, but because they think it is the right thing to do.

By refusing to say anything and pretending all is fine when it’s not, you are not giving him the chance to know how you feel about his lack of sharing.

So whether it is his stinginess or even something else, do not hesitate to talk to him about it first and give him the opportunity to turn a new leaf.

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2. Give him stuff

There’s also something to be said for ‘leading by example.’

In the present case, look for things he need, the gifts he’ll find most useful, then give him as much of that as you can find.

One of the ways to teach people how to relate with you is to relate with them in that same manner. Of course, it does not mean that they will get the clue and treat you like that, too; but it’s a step worth taking. Hopefully your man gets the point.

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3. Hope you’re making your own money?

You’re not asking for too much if you want a man to share material things with you. And especially if your love language is receiving gifts, that statement becomes a lot more accurate.

However, it is important to know that if this is the kind of relationship you want, you should not just be willing to spend that money on him or shower him with gifts and material things, you need to actually be able to.

Making your own money and being able to afford gifts for him gives the relationship a feel of mutuality rather than parasitism.

Having said that, it is important to note that a stingy boyfriend and a broke boyfriend are not the same.