5 things to do when you find out your partner has a sex tape

According to Isabella Carson of Healthy Black Woman, writer Heather Leiva was on her new husband’s computer one day. He had sat he down and showed her where the files that she needed were and then went upstairs. Curiosity over a folder named “Private” got the better of her and she opened it. What she found was something that took years to get over.

She found homemade adult movies of her new husband and his ex-wife that were made years before. She was hurt and angry and confronted him about it when he came back downstairs. He apologized and stated that he had even forgotten that they were on the computer.

Now, years later, Leiva realizes that she learned some things from watching every one of her husband’s home movies: