Do I really need a job before seeking a relationship?

Dear Bukky,

I am 25 years old, I don't have a job at the moment, but I’m trying hard to find one.

It's been more than 7 years now and I don't have a girlfriend. Anytime I try to think of having one I’m always afraid that I’ll be turned down due to the fact that I don't have a job, and the fact that how would I give her what she needs when it's worth giving her.

I want to feel love and I want to love someone. It’s hurting me inside. I don't know what to do.___________

Dear reader,

I think you should just wait a while longer. Get that job first as you sound like someone who loves to spoil his girl with the fine things of life.

I should mention that love and good relationships are not always dependent on money and material things but it’d really be good to be able to afford them because romance is better when people have money to do things for their loved ones out of affection.

ALSO READ:This is why it's OK to not date broke women

Remove the possibility that your relationship will break up due to a lack of money or due to any stress that may be put on it for financial reasons. I think you should remain patient a while longer. Get that job. You put yourself in a great position to be in a loving, lasting relationship that won’t cause you heartbreaks for reasons that you can’t do anything about.

If you have waited seven years to get into a relationship, I think it just makes sense to do the best you can to make sure you are doing it right now that you are finally getting into it. And one of the ways to achieve that is to put yourself in pole position to thrive in the relationship before delving into it.

I wish you all the best._______________

Do you want to talk about your love life, marriage or family issues?

Do you have burning questions that you would love to get answers to?

Just send a mail to relationships@pulse.ng and I'll provide the most honest answers to them anonymously.

Note; the chances of getting a quick response reduces if the text in your email has a lot of abbreviations. So, please write as properly as possible.

So, why not send that mail today and let's talk about it?

A problem shared is a problem half-solved!