But for straight-identifying guys, there's still a taboo around the activity: specifically, that you must be secretly gay or bisexual if you want to have a threesome with another man. Which is kind of ridiculous, considering the same guys watch porn with other men in it all the time. (Unless youre one of those dudes who ONLY watches lesbian porn.) No one considers it gay to watch another man have sex with a woman when its in porn, but when its in real life, its suddenly super gay?

Well, that's not necessarily the case. I've had bi MMF threesomes where all of us hook up with each othernotice these are called MMF and not MFM; the two M are together, indicating there's a potential for the guys to hook up, too. No surprise to anyone, but those encounters are undoubtedly queer. But I've also had MFM threesomes with straight men, where he and I aren't hooking up in any way, shape, or form. Those types of threesomes will be the focus of this piece.

You learn a thing or two about friendship, masculinity, and sex when you have a devils threesome. As someone whos had more than his fair share of devil's threesomes in his lifetime, and somehow isn't burning in the fiery depths of hell for it, Im going to share exactly what I've learned.

You are not the star of the show in a devil's threesome. Neither is your buddy. It's all about her and her desires. In fulfilling her desires, youll likely knock a few things off your own bucket list, too. Its a win-win-win for everyone involved. If the sexual act is solely about you and your buddy, and look at this crazy shit were pulling off, shes not going to like it. Shes going to feel like a prop.

When you watch MFM porn, its almost always incredibly rough. Theres a lot of pounding, spit roasting, choking, spitting, spanking, money shots, and all that good stuff. But theres nothing inherently rough about a devil's threesome. Ive had ones that are surprisingly tender, since thats what the woman requested. She didnt want to get double penetratedshe simply wanted someone to make love to her while the other guy makes out with her and caresses her nipples. It was a surprisingly sensual experience.

Speaking of double penetration, it is much harder than you think. First off, if one of you isnt hung, its not going to happen. That guy wont be able to help but slip out when thrusting. Typically, the best way to accomplish DP is having one guy just stay deep inside of the woman, while the other guy thrusts. The thrusters movements will automatically move the non-thruster, so itll seem like you both are thrusting, when in actuality, the non-thruster is just trying to keep himself inside her vagina or anus.

Unless youre DP masters, theres usually one guy whos doing the P-in-V, while the other guy plays a more passive (but equally important) role. Hes the one who's playing with her clit while the other guy does anal. Or hes making out with her, sucking on her breasts, or simply holding her tightly. In MFM threesomes, you learn to appreciate all the other things besides strict penetrative intercourse. Its a mindset you take with you when you go back to having one-on-one sex.

The straight men Ive had a MFM threesome with, I've known for years. It wasnt a random dude at the bar who was like, Hey, we doing this? I was best friends with these guys before we had a threesome, and we are still best friends now. I will say there is somethingIm not sure if intimate is the right wordbut perhaps platonically intimate, about having a DT with a friend. Seeing how your buddy bones along with his orgasm face takes your friendship to the next level. How could it not?

I know I keep belaboring this point, but its because I know a bunch of you reading this article are still thinking, Nah, this still sounds pretty gay. The thing is, it can be, but only if you want it to be. If you find yourself really drawn to the man while hes having sex, and not really caring about the woman involved, then Id recommend reflecting on your sexuality . But if you simply find it hot watching or being with another man as he has sex with a woman, thats not gay. Thats you getting turned on by people having sex because watching people having sex is undeniably hot!